Relationships are fragile. They require work and patience, but harmony is easily destroyed. Sometimes a couple of poorly chosen words are enough
Try never, even under the influence of strong emotions, not to tell your partner these words. And if you hear them in your address, make it clear that it is unpleasant for you.
1. “HE WOULD DO IT FOR ME”
The main rule of relationships: never think of your ex or compare your current partner with them. It is impossible to compete with the past. This only gives rise to complexes, neuroses and feelings of inferiority. In addition, this will raise the question: is the previous relationship really over, or do you want to continue? If you need your partner to do something for you, say it directly, without referring to the days gone by and people.
2. “THIS IS THE BIGGEST SHOULDER THAT I HAVE HEARED IN LIFE”
Sometimes it is difficult, but try to perceive all ideas and decisions of your partner with understanding and respect. Otherwise, he will simply stop sharing them with you, and you will feel uncomfortable. Do not be contemptuous or derogatory about thoughts and actions. And if something in his behavior seems stupid or inappropriate to you, say it tactfully.
3. “IT’S YOUR FAILURE”
Shifting responsibility on someone else’s shoulders does not solve the problem, but it does breach trust. Therefore, you should not poke the culprit with your nose in his mistakes, even if he really did wrong. It is better to think together how to find a way out of this situation. And then, when the problem is resolved and the passions have subsided, you can discuss what happened and figure out how to avoid a repetition.
4. “SOMETIMES I WOULD LIKE TO PICK YOU JUST”
Even if you never seriously think about using physical force, it is still better not to talk, even in jest, to relieve emotional stress. And even if you really can barely hold back so as not to raise your hand. Sometimes loved ones get mad. But don’t tell them that if something happens, you can hit them.
5. “YOU CANNOT DO ANYTHING NORMALLY”
You don’t really think so, do you? Otherwise, you wouldn’t be together. This phrase is very dangerous. The more often a person hears it, the lower their self-esteem falls and the more he becomes disappointed in his abilities. There are no perfect people. Ask yourself: Is it worth it to ruin the relationship because your partner can’t hang up the shelf or cook dinner the way you want?
6. “AND I SPEAKED”
Telling someone that you were right and he was not is very nice, don’t you agree? And then what? Are five minutes of the dubious triumph of a broken relationship worth it? Everyone has the right to make mistakes and learn from them. And the task of a loving person is to support, come to the rescue and not condemn.
7. “IF YOU LOVED ME, YOU WOULD NEVER …”
This is already manipulation and an attempt at sophisticated pressure on a partner. And this is also a forbidden technique. Constantly forcing your partner to prove love and fulfill your wishes, you simply destroy the relationship. In the end, he will get tired of it and he will do everything his own way. Try to find compromises and respect each other’s wishes.
8. “DON’T WEAR THIS MORE”
No one is immune from mistakes in choosing clothes. Refrain from criticizing your partner’s style and taste. If something in his wardrobe seems old-fashioned, funny, or inappropriate, go shopping together.
9. “YOU ARE ALL FOR ME”
It sounds very nice, but it actually belittles and devalues you. You should not dissolve in another person, no matter how you love him. In addition to relationships, you must have your own interests, priorities and goals in life.
10. “YOU ARE FULL ZERO”
Then why are you together? Perhaps you are trying to assert yourself at the expense of your partner, which is why you make him feel like nothing. But this is clearly an unhealthy relationship. Stop torturing yourself and your partner too.